What We Say, Do & Think Has An Affect on Others

 person-showing-faith-in-lord-by-holding-holy-cross-vector-graphic-this-illustration-is-a-concept-of-a-devout-faithful-christian_137125805Matt 5:16 says, ”Let your light so shine before men that they may see your good works and glorify your Father whois in heaven”. kjv

We may not know it but all that we do has an affect on other people, and what they do has an affect on us.  There’s a song entitled “No Man Is An Island No Man Stands Alone”, and that is so true.  People need each other, whether we want to admit it or not, because we all have something to give to one another.  This is Body ministry.

The Things We Say:

 The things we say have a great affect on the people we are speaking to, whether husbands, children, co-workers, relatives or friends.  Proverbs says “a wounded spirit who can bear”.  How often have we wounded our loved ones and friends by being too harsh with them, too snappy, mean and quick tempered, insulting or rude?  We must especially be very careful with children because they can be so easily influenced by us, either for good or for bad.

The Lord wants our words to be a healing balm!  Like an ointment to soothe, comfort, encourage, bring wholeness, understanding, words of mercy and grace to others.  Proverbs 17:22 says that a “merry heart doeth good like a medicine”.  And James 3:2 says, “those who control their tongues can also control themselves in every other way.” (NLB).  We are the light of the world and must shine forth as a true light for people to see, so that they will be drawn to our Father, having been influenced by our lives.  How often have we pulled out atomic weaponry when only a small word was needed to correct a situation?  We ladies have the power to have a marked affect on others by the words we speak, either for good or for evil.  1 Peter 3:1 tells us, “your godly lives will speak to them better than any words”, speaking of women with unsaved husbands.

People are watching us all the time, though we may not realize it, we are being watched.  Preachers live in glass houses they say, well, we do too.  We are being watched by our children, husbands, relatives, friends, neighbors and those we work with.  These people see us all the time.  They see the REAL us, the person that when our cup “gets bumped” what is on the inside comes out.  Hopefully it is more Spirit than flesh.  Our children copy us, as we are the mirror of God to them.  Who else is going to show them in human form what this God we talk about is like; unless they see what He is like through us and the lives we live of unselfishness, loving others, sharing, caring, helping and giving.  Who else is going to model these virtues of God to them and show them what God is like unless we live this before them?

The Things We Do:

 The things that we do can have a wonderful affect on those around us.  We can either choose to become a blessing to others around us or a curse.  We can choose to be kind and patient, or mean and retaliatory.  We can share and give and be understanding when we don’t get our own way in a situation, or we can grip and complain and become bitter.  Our attitudes affect those around us either as a very pleasant experience for them or a very negative experience for them to endure.  I have done both in my life and I only wish I had chosen to walk in the fruits of the Spirit instead of my flesh in those instances.  I am now trying to make choices to deny myself, take up my cross daily and follow Him.  But as I grew older, I began to understand that the only thing that really matters in all of life is loving the Lord with all my heart and all my soul, and for my whole focus to be: to please my Savior and to please my wonderful Father who made me as His daughter.  Life is not about obtaining things, houses, money, security, savings, trips, clothes, cars, better jobs, climbing the corporate ladder.  It is taking what He has given us to do NOW and do it as unto Him for His glory, to please Him and Him alone!  That is why we do what we do.  Not really for others so much as to please our Lord, and in pleasing others, we please our Lord.  Regardless of whether or not the other person appreciates what we do for them or not.  That is not the issue.  The issue is that we are pleasing our Father, and that is enough.

Another part of “doing” is keeping our word when we say that we will do something, as that affects other people too.  They become disappointed, discouraged, untrusting of our words and a lot of others things that may go through their minds when we do not follow through.  I know as a pastor’s wife, once I assigned a lady in our congregation to bring the chili (which was to be a very important part of the potluck meal, as we had very few main dishes).  Well, she did not show up with the chili, just with her large family and no food.  I asked her why she did not bring the chili, and she just gave me a flimsy excuse.  We did not have enough main dishes, but the Lord is always faithful to His people and somehow we all had enough.  But I felt very disappointed in the lady.  I felt let down, and felt that I could not trust her with important responsibilities if she couldn’t even keep her word to bring the chili.  God must see us much in the same way.  We feel we are prompted to do something, but other things come our way and we yield to the temptation to do the other things instead of the thing we were prompted to do.  EX: Make a call to someone, visit someone in the hospital, take someone to the doctors or many other small but important duties as Christians that the Lord has prompted us to do on His behalf.  Then we let Him down.  How can He ever entrust us with much if we will fail Him in the small things He’s asked us to do?

NOT DOING something is equally important.  Say a grandma gets mad and doesn’t give her grandchild a gift because she is mad at the parents for some reason or other.  Who does this affect?  The parents for sure, but especially the grandchild.  The grandchild doesn’t understand why they didn’t get a present from grandma this year.  Feelings of sadness, disappointment and a feeling of not being loved anymore by grandma can be created in that child’s heart all by one act of omission.  Let this not be said among us, that we ever omitted to do something that would hurt another person.

The Things We Think:

The things we think can have an affect on others too.  The Bible speaks in Romans 12:2 about the renewing of our minds (re-programming them). Philippians 4:8 says, “fix your thoughts on what is true and honorable and right.  Think about things that are pure and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.”  You see the mind is so closely connected with the heart.  What we think or conceive (or give birth to in our minds) goes into our hearts, and these thoughts will usually and eventually get worked out into our life, either for righteousness or unrighteousness for “Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks”.  Wow this is quite a Scripture and really reveals where we are.  So we affect other people with our thoughts because they get worked out into our lives.  My husband quite often tells me that I should keep my thoughts to myself  if I have something negative to say about a situation.  For example, today we went to Mt. Hood Lodge to check out the rooms to see if we ever wanted to stay they.  They cost $180 for a weekday night.  They gave us the key and we went up to view the room.  Right away, I was astonished at how small a $180 room was at a lodge.  I went “ugh”, “look at this TV (it was about a 13” TV set, and the bathroom was so small that you could not turn around in it and had very old fashioned sink & shower.  Not even a tub (for $180.00!!!).  It was like turning up my nose at the room in disgust and letting my feelings be known.  Well, I didn’t know it, but my husband was disappointed in my reaction.  He didn’t even want to see the rest of the lodge, but just leave.  I asked him, “don’t you want to see the rest of the place?”  He answered, “well, I didn’t think you wanted to.  I wish you wouldn’t say things when you don’t like them, but just keep them to yourself.”  I think that our men try, or our children try to please us in some ways, and when we don’t like it and we display or dislike for something, they get hurt.  So, I need to just “keep my mouth shut” when I think a negative thought about a situation, person etc and not let it get down into my heart and out my mouth.

Ladies I want to encourage you to become mindful of the things you do and what you speak and how you think.  We want this planet to be just a little better off because we were here, don’t we?  We want to have been a blessing to others while we were here.  We want to have ministered real love to others while we were here and not pain.  And when we are a blessing, and filled with love and the world is better off because we were born, then YOU are an extension of the hands and heart and mouth of Jesus.  Touching lives in His Name to:  Affect Others!  So let us consider how important we are to others and how we affect their lives, and let us endeavor to serve Jesus and let Him touch lives through us, then each day of our lives can have meaning and be a blessing to our Lord because, we are a blessing to others.